Kris Aquino and Ruffa Gutierrez share their views on relationships

Kris Aquino and Ruffa Gutierrez opened up about their personal relationships on The Buzz last Sunday, January 11, when the stories revolved mainly around showbiz pairs. While tackling a report about showbiz couples rumored to be splitting up, fellow host Boy Abunda asked them how would a woman know that a relationship is over based on their own experiences.

Ruffa first explained that her situation was different from the ones where couples usually fall out of love. “With me naman it’s a different situation. Even if he (ex-husband Yilmaz Bektas) wasn’t over in my heart, I had to end it because of the circumstances.” Ruffa was once married to Turkish businessman Bektas whom she left because she said she was a battered wife. The couple have two daughters, Lorin and Venice.

For her part, Kris said that she knows that a relationship is over when a wife leaves home and runs to her mother. “From experience lang, ‘yung ‘pag pumunta ka na sa nanay mo. Kunyari may balita tayo na si Assunta (de Rossi) lumipad papunta sa Italy to be with her mom. Kasi kapag tumakbo ka na sa nanay mo, that means inamin mo na ang tindi-tindi na ng problem ninyo,” Kris explained. But if the wife shields her family from her problems and tries to fix her relationship with her partner, it means that it isn’t over.

Ruffa explained that money should not be given too much importance in the relationship and that couples should instead concentrate on staying together. “Kahit siguro wala na kayong makain you’ll do everything to help [each other].”

Disagreeing with what her co-host said, Kris maintained that many relationships go downhill because of financial matters, whether it is because of too much money or none at all. “Anong sikreto d’yan? Before you take care of other’s needs, you [should] take care of each other’s needs. Ang first priority mo is your immediate family, later na ‘yung personal needs mo,” she pointed out.